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Social Skills in the Workplace
By: Victoria L. Rayner
Posted: October 17, 2008, from the November 2008 issue of Skin Inc. magazine.
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For some, these principles will present a welcome challenge and for others, perfecting these workplace attributes will be slightly more difficult. The idea is to arrive at a place where you are socially skilled enough not to argue and open-minded enough not to judge.
One of the greatest personal satisfactions that can be experienced in a work situation comes from successful professional relationships. On the other hand, the opposite is equally as true. Great humiliations and disappointments can stem from being rejected and betrayed by fellow employees. It is very uncomfortable to have to show up to a place every day where you feel that no one wants you. It can play havoc on a person’s self-confidence and self-worth, not to mention destroy a career.
If this has occurred, how does a person who is perceived as far-from-favorable get over it? Step back and take the time to evaluate the changes in the new work culture. By taking this action, leverage can be gained, and you can begin to build yourself up from there. All that really matters is to get yourself up to speed again and back on track as part of the team.
A worthy challenge
Given the power of this knowledge, you now have the opportunity to identify and connect better with those you work with instead of being tormented by things that you should never have said or done. It is always easier to say “this feeling is only temporary” rather than “I am going to have to do some serious damage control.” If you can use these formulas to turn your attention away from gloating and gossiping and the other moldy stuff that drives you crazy in the workplace, you can look forward to the best of times. Be it a huge or a trivial disagreement, the result will always be the same: Workplace conflicts are a real threat because they fuel fears and insecurities, no matter how you justify or rationalize the situation. The more in sync you are with your own feelings and those of the people around you, the better you are going to relate.